True love is actually a blessing. But what if, when a guy loves you and
you’re by no means interested in him. Yeah, this love could become a headache
for the girl. The situation could be that the guy remain persistent and doesn’t
understand your ‘no’.
In case it’s a guy you don’t know, turning him down is
much easier than if he’s your friend or someone whom you know. It is possible
that you have to get stubborn to convey your point. Sometimes, you even have to
become mean to get your point across. Read further to know how to turn down a
guy, in each case, politely.
1.
Thank him for his attention. Be
as genuine as possible when doing this; knowing that you sincerely appreciate
the question will help him feel less embarrassed about being turned down. If he
has been inappropriate in his attention, you may wish to skip this step, as he
might take it as encouragement or a sign that his behavior is welcome.
2.
Tell him that you can't accept
his advances, and---if it would be appropriate and helpful---explain why. For
example, if you already have a boyfriend, you might wish to make this clear to
him. Do not lead him on, however. If, for example, he asked you to a movie on
Friday night and you are not interested in ever going to a movie with him,
don't tell him that you are busy on Friday night (even if this is true), as he
might think this means he should just ask you out for another night. If you
have no reason to refuse him except that you are not interested, simply tell
him that you can't accept without elaborating as to why.
3.
Show him that you like him as a
person, even if not a potential date, and that your rejection is not because
you hate him or find him unworthy of any attention. Again, the exception to
this would be if he has treated you inappropriately or you truly do dislike him
for a good reason. If possible and you think he will take it the right way,
answer with a sense of humor to make him feel more comfortable.
4.
Tailor your answer based on the
circumstances and what you think of him. If, for instance, a perfectly likable
guy asks you out on a date while you are at a dance night in a pub, he might
say, "You're a great dancer. Would you like to go out tomorrow
night?" You could respond with a smile, "Thanks so much, I'm
flattered. I'm afraid my boyfriend wouldn't appreciate me going out with
another guy. But I'd love to have the next dance if you don't already have a
partner." If, however, a creepy guy who has been leering at you all night
were to ask the same thing, you could simply and politely say, "Thank you,
but I'm afraid not."